Nonviolent NZ Communities

Bringing Authentic and Compassionate Communication to Individuals, Communities and Organisations 

Based on the work of Marshall B. Rosenberg and the Centre of Nonviolent Communication and

Daniel Goleman and Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence in Organizations

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There are no grades given in the Science of Self. The final exam is life itself.

NVC is helping create a new movement rooted in the importance of teaching emotional intelligence and establishing emotional safety within NZ population, communities, organisations and institutions

We invite you to browse our site and get to know us, find out more about Nonviolent Communication and keep informed to what seminars, workshops and training programmes we are offering.

Nonviolent communication (NVC, also called compassionate communication, or Giraffe language) is a communication process developed by Marshall Rosenberg in the 1960s and 70s.

What is Nonviolent Communication

NVC is a communication tool that supports us discover what is alive and meaningful within us, and how all of our actions are based on our human needs that we are seeking to meet.

We learn to develop a vocabulary of feelings and needs that helps us grow our understanding about own emotional experience and develop our Emotional Competence. We learn how to more clearly express what is going on in us, and understand what is going on it others, at any given moment.

When we understand and acknowledge our feelings and needs, we develop a shared foundation for much more satisfying relationships.

Join us and the people around the world who have improved their relationships (with self and others) and their lives with this communication process.

NVC is based on the idea that humans are innately compassionate, while violence (psychological and physical) is learned through culture. NVC theory supposes all human behaviour stems from attempts to meet a small set of human needs. Needs are believed never to be in conflict. Rather, conflict arises when strategies for meeting needs clash. NVC proposes that if people can identify the needs of others, and the feelings that surround the needs, harmony can be achieved.

So, NVC holds that most conflicts between individuals or groups arise from miscommunication about their human needs, due to coercive or manipulative language that aims to induce fear, guilt, shame, etc. These “violent” modes of communication, when used during a conflict, divert the attention of the participants away from clarifying their needs, their feelings, their perceptions, and their requests, thus perpetuating the conflict. The aim of NVC is then to steer the conversation back towards the needs, feelings, and perceptions, until the discovery of strategies that allow everyone´s need to be met. The reasoning is that from a position of mutual understanding and empathy, the participants will be able to find ways to meet their needs without compromising their opponent´s. Read more.

Meet Our Trainers

Workshops combine NVC training evelopment, team-building, communications, motivation and planning. Click here to meet the trainers.

Learn NVC

NVC provides concrete guidelines for how to live life and engage in personal development informed by a deep commitment to nonviolence.

Principles of NVC

We choose to act in line with the following principles because we believe that using this approach we are more likely to contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully. Read more.

Research and Articles

Browse through the research studies and articles related to Nonviolent Communication and Emotional Intelligence, Empathy and Compassion and their application. 

Subtle Violence

Needs. We all have the same needs, whoever we are, wherever we live.

How do we communicate those needs, whether personal, or family, work, community, environment or society?

What are the strategies we choose to meet our needs?

How to meet needs in ways that do not harm others and identify a path of action (strategy) that will also meet our own needs?

Even when we resort to violence (could be very subtle), we are still attempting to meet needs, however tragically. Bring nonviolence to your thoughts and actions or invite others to do so.

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External Supervision

Being caught in a cycle of dysfunctional relationships at work, destructive self-talk, toxic guilt, the burden of old emotional pain, or even a job that you find hard to go to, could take away the daily joy of living by not meeting your needs.

Your individual counseling is taylored to suit real-world work relationship needs. Ultimately, you find your own inner wisdom. You learn powerful, realistic ways to express your true feelings and needs, say no when you have to and make requests that meet your needs and others.

Take that first step to your personal growth and the well-being of your relationships. 

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