Nonviolent NZ Communities

Bringing Authentic and Compassionate Communication to Individuals, Communities and Organisations 

Based on the work of Marshall B. Rosenberg and the Centre of Nonviolent Communication and

Daniel Goleman and Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence in Organizations

Level 3 NVC Training Programme

Empathy Sessions

4 weeks, 2 hour workshop/weekly 


Connection - Emphatic connection is an understanding of the heart in which we see the beauty in the other person, the divine energy in the other person, the life that's alive in them.

Realizing Empathy - Empathy is a quality of attention in the presence of which connection, healing and understanding naturally thrive. The presence of empathy very often changes the kind of decisions and actions we take.

Expressing with Honesty - “Just be yourself” is a simple phrase for a very difficult task. Honesty is an expression grounded in awareness of the four basic components of NVC model: what I am observing, feeling, needing and requesting in this moment. Honesty is the complement of empathy.

Anger - Anger is an emotional reaction related to one's interpretation of what someone or something should or should not be, say or behave the way they are being, saying or behaving. However, making decisions while angry might prompt a desire to punish, which disconnects as a result. Anger is an ‘expensive emotion’ that blocks empathy.


Camelia PETRUS

(PGDip. Psychology, NVC, NLP, Counselling), Member of NVC Aotearoa

Who is this seminar for (not limited to):

  • Individuals
  • Practice and Project Managers
  • Leaders
  • Police Commanders and Area Managers
  • Department of Correction
  • School Principals and Administrators
  • Organisations dealing with Domestic Violence
  • Executives in the public sector

Group Size:

Maximum 12

Choose a date:

Please contact us to discuss dates and times that suit you and your organisation.


  • In-house. We will come to you.
  • Online if in-person is unsuitable



From NZ$3,120+GST/group if all attendees belong to the same organisation. Minimum 8, maximum 12.


People taking this course:

  • Know how to bring themselves in a state of heart and mind that is life-enriching, compassionate and peace-building by spotting and shifting around judgement and labels;
  • Know how to cultivate awareness of ways in which we fall into the 4 D’s (diagnose, denial, demands, deserve) that block compassionate connection.
  • Know how not to deprive another person of their responsibility for their own feelings and behaviours;
  • Know how to take responsibility for ones' own feelings and behaviours;
  • Hear and receive the other person’s observation, feeling, need and request;
  • Practice listening with full attention to another’s being, and distinguishing empathy from its verbal expression.
  • Know how to reflect back verbally;
  • Hear and identify feelings and needs behind others people’s words’.
  • Recognise, accept and express their authentic interior reality;
  • To consciously choose words most likely to enhance heart connection given a particular relationship, circumstance, time, place, cultural context, etc.
  • To express honestly, especially where it may be difficult to do so;
  • To apply the formula for honesty, much like training wheels for bike-riding;
  • Recognise the feeling of anger in the body;
  • Are open to the feelings that come up when they connect with the unmet need;
  • Know how to approach the other ‘expensive emotions’ of guilt, shame and depression
  • Identify the ‘should’ thinking that is the cause of anger and how to translate that thinking into needs;
  • Identify the stimulus of anger, what was actually observed, free of evaluation;